FIM's MULTIMEDIA RELATIONSHIP Magazine Tip's
Every one loves to feel wanted , loved and adored
Every man wants to feel like his lady’s
hero and it is boring when women don’t understand that.
Men who have strayed have done that
for different reasons with most being
because of the lack of attention.
Every one loves to feel wanted
including the men, loved and adored.
To make that happen and not let the
passion fizzle out, here lists of 10 ways men can be prevented from cheating
Be willing to initiate sex: Men equate
sex with desirability. Help your man to
feel desired by expressing your love in a physical way.
Be open to experimentation: It can be
easy to get comfortable and fear of the
unknown can stop you from being
open to different sexual experiences.
Allow your man to try new things with
you. If you won’t, there will be
someone else who will. I’m not saying
to engage in sexual activity you find
repulsive but allow yourself to
experience new things with the man
you love.
Don’t over-accomodate: Sometimes in
a relationship, a woman can become
too accommodating. Men get into
relationships with a very clear picture
of what a lifetime partner looks like
and this is often in stark contrast to
whom he may have dated casually.
Women work to become the person
their partner wants them to be and in
doing so, they lose themselves. One
day, their man realizes this is what he
asked for but he isn’t sure it’s what he
really wants. Maintain a healthy sense of self in your relationship.
Don’t become too controlling: Often
without realizing it, when we get into
relationships we attempt to control the
other person to do what works best for us. We engage in destructive
relationship habits such as
complaining, blaming, criticizing,
nagging, threatening, punishing and
bribing or rewarding to control.
Make sure he knows how much you
appreciate him: Sometimes when
women “get” the guy and get married,
they begin to get a false sense of
security. Remember, all relationships
are voluntary. A person can leave at
any time. With an over 50% divorce
rate in this present generation, we need to remember how important it is to
maintain a positive relationship, not
simply to acquire one.
Let him have time to himself: Some
men cheat because they begin to feel
hemmed in by the relationship.
Engaging in an affair can provide
them the sense of freedom they lose in
a relationship. Allow your man time
for himself without you. Don’t try to
monopolize all your guy’s time. Be
open to time apart for him to spend
with friends, pursue hobbies, etc. so
he does not feel he has no freedom.
Be aware of your emotions: Whether
or not we are aware of it, women are
masters at using their emotions to
communicate volumes without
speaking any words. We communicate
anger, rage, sadness and
disappointment that is received by our
partners. Instead of taking that as a
cue to do something different, some
men begin to look for another partner
who idolizes them the way you used
to. Don’t forget, your man wants to
know he lights you up not that he is
constantly disappointing you.
Prioritize your relationship: Often,
when a man cheats, you will find the
woman is also having an “affair”
that’s not sexual. It’s more socially
appropriate. This “affair” takes the
form of prioritizing something,
anything, over the relationship. This
could be a job, children, a sick
relative, a charity or anything that
puts her man lower on her totem pole
than the first position. Prioritize your
relationship over everything else. This
is the relationship you want to last for
all your life. Other things will fade
away and the relationship will still be
there if you tend to it carefully.
Learn his love language: If you are not
familiar with Dr. Gary Chapman’s The
Five Love Languages, please read it. It
has the potential to save more
marriages than marriage counseling
has. Learn your man’s love language
and speak it to him regularly. He will
know he is loved and remain true to
you.
Find his relationship pattern: I do not
know how to combat the biology
argument. Some men simply believe it
is hard wired into their genes to have
sexual relations with as many women
as they can. If this is your man, it
probably won’t matter what you do.
Try to recognize these men early on by
asking about their dating history. If
this is a pattern with your man, he
probably isn’t likely to change just
because you love him best. Your best
defense against this problem is to be
discriminating at the onset.
If you have read this article and
wondered, what about him? What does
he need to do? I wanted to write an
article for women. I encounter more
women in pain over their mate’s
infidelity than I do men. This is for
you.
If you are unhappy in your
relationship, don’t point your finger at
your partner. Look into the mirror
and decide what it is that’s causing the
unhappiness. If you want something
different from your man, ask for it. If
he gives you what you want, then
great! If he doesn’t then look inside
yourself for the solution.
Accept your man as he is and adjust
yourself to better be able to manage
your relationship. And if he is
violating one of your non-negotiables,
leaving might be your best option.
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